CheeHoo, a passionate demonstration of emotion through war or celebration, much like life. Walking through one step at a time, day by day, year by year. It’s crazy to think how much we fit in and how much we don’t. How much our brains consume, how much our heart feels and how hard and easy it is on any given minute.
Do you ever wonder whether you’re on the right path, living the right life, having the right priorities, whilst enjoying life?
Do you ever reflect and think; wow, I have just passed a year and I made the most of that chapter and have so much more to live? Years fly pass and its easy to get caught up in the routine and daily pressures and its easy not to reflect. Reflection is not only positive or negative milestones, but from a value of life and happiness perspective. Am I living the type of life that I can appreciate all the moments, good and bad. What did I learn, have I evolved as a human? Do I know myself more and do I know those I love, more? Do I have a deeper sense of myself? Have the conditions I put on myself and others, evolved?
I reflect often as I take this CheeHoo journey and realise only a year ago I truly knew nothing about the depth of the conditions I set in my life. In the past I have had no capacity to think deeply into myself, I was too busy being disciplined, successful, pleasing, grounded but somewhat disconnected.
I was running multiple races in my daily life. Leading a small enterprise; job, family, household, over committed weekends, curating (at times in my head) a fabulous life, whilst capturing it on my social feed; which I’ve never been good at personally but did try. Some people are amazing at it, juggling more, plus more social channels, including Snapchat, Facebook, Instagram, messenger, mailboxes and hectic schedules. Then on top of this we have a ritual of a few hours a week catching up on our alter egos via Netflix or Stan.
This is the modern-society pattern, especially women. We fit so much in and hang on sometimes, by a thread. Our mind is so busy with keeping everything a float, our brain often cannot function without it, for fear of missing out.
When I’m in the thick of juggling life, especially work, I am on autopilot. Operating faster and harsher. My throughput increases but my patience shortens, I have shallow breathing, tightened shoulders and barely notice the outside world until the job is done. I get tunnel focused, where my loved ones around me are just shrubs I’m passing by whilst doing 200 on a highway. This is when I’m at my peak of stress and I don’t realise it. Then after running like this for some time my body starts to give in and the signs appear, I get a head cold, injure a body part, end up looking like a well put together zombie in a hamster wheel.
I wake up some mornings not even remembering the thoughts I had before I slept. Some Monday’s get blurred for Thursday’s before I know it I’m counting down Friday’s. Then suddenly I stop as my body gives in and it’s a Sunday and I finally stare out at the world blissful in gratitude for the air I am breathing. I then reflect on all the things I could have done better, or not done at all. Managing all the noise around us is hard work and sometimes it’s full time just to feel some level of structure and organisation with so many things screaming for your attention.
I have recently realised my patterns and consciously trying to slow my mind and create new behaviours and get comfortable. I am still productive plus creating a start-up, but I am trying to remove the false conditions in my life, the extra noise and chatter that goes on. I make smarter decisions, so I don’t over commit, but also don’t limit. I have removed some old habits that don’t contribute to the outcome; including the duplication of to do lists; notes on my phone, home office, kitchen calendar, reminding me to climb a mountain and live life.
I have simplified it, which has taken some time to do and lots of behaviour realignment, breathing and self-talk. I still want to climb mountains and I haven’t removed it all. Working on CheeHoo gives me hope that more tools functional designed to promote the right things, like organising noise not adding to it and keeping connected to those most important, will help me do the rest. I will have a personal assistant and lifestyle app; however, the rest is up to me, my awareness of life and how precious it is, will reshape how I live.
We humans have it good. With intuition to seek progress and the ambition to build rockets, I am blessed to have grown into these feet right here, right now. Though we all have pain, fear and doubt, if I flood my brain with gratitude and limit negative thoughts it generates a strength and appreciation that leads the way.
Practising this state of mind is an ongoing journey and requires awareness, trust in a process of forgiveness when you forget. It’s not easy but as with many things creating a new habit takes practice.
With only 7 weeks to go to the Launch of CheeHoo, I am shitting myself on the daily, whilst carrying on. At times thinking if I am the only one that will need this and just how uncomfortable this new world of a start-up is for me, where I am not certain of the outcome and I must flow with where my decisions take me. This is CheeHoo Life, where nothing is impossible. You Love, you are Loved, and the universe aligns to serve you!
A couple of years ago I came to the realisation that I was busy! I also was tired of hearing me respond to people with 'I am busy'.
I was always playing catch up feeling like I was constantly juggling all the balls in the air. Hoping one would not drop. How do you happily juggle love, family, demanding job, friends, social apps and of course maintaining a house, oh and the Puppy I just bought. I thought crap lucky I don’t have little kids! I would be screwed!
Being in my 30 something’s I was also drawn to work on my internal to do list, trying to be more patient, kind and tolerant, yep I was screwed... My crazy schedule and need to perfectly satisfy all demands had me roaming around half zombie/robot. As the only girl in a brood of brothers, two sets of parents, I juggled my forty to sixty-hour work week and obsessive-compulsive tendencies, not allowing me to keep an unorganised personal life. My talents include getting shit done at home and work, being the organised wife, dependable daughter, reliable sister, loyal friend, living a cycle of 'ground hog day', bored of being busy and tired. Also, I did carry around a suitcase of guilt for all the times I dropped the ball.
Balancing my ever growing to do list and my day job as an IT Delivery Consultant with meetings and problem solving all day, I was a professional juggler. I would sometimes day dream of going into hospital just for one week. Maybe have an operation so I could be knocked out with some anaesthetic and have the best sleep of my life, then be fed and bathed without having to leave my room... Yes, it got that desperate at times.
I thought shit, there must be a better way for me to organise myself better, maybe reduce some noise by disconnecting some things and finding new tools to make it magically sorted without expending more energy. So, I started the hunt thinking I could find a solution to basically create an efficient, intuitive way to manage my life. I was looking for a robot that would follow me around and basically tell me where to be, as well as complete all the tasks on my to do list, plus cook dinner.
Sounds magical right? Yeah that’s right, it didn’t exist.
So, I spent months focusing on how I could free up time, drop unnecessary things, learning to say no and prioritise love and home whilst keeping my well paid and demanding job without compromising my standards. Although some things improved, it was just like shuffling the decks and at times organising and planning took more energy.
Surely this isn't what life is meant to be. Keeping it all together and pleasing the loudest nag at a time. I also don’t want to say no to everything because I want it all! Career, family, friends and Zen! Plus, even more! That’s right I am Superwoman, but I need a super assistant to do half my tasks.
It was at this point I started to create CheeHoo!
Talking to my fellow Superwoman around me, I saw that today requires us to carry double the load, whilst not fully surrendering all duties in the home, but instead added more to our plate. We are taking on all facets of life at home, with kids, in the Boardroom, snapping in with Technology and all its social goodness into the melting pot.
We are all BUSY - but are we progressing the life we want to live with the precious time we have!?
I jotted down in my little red pocket book for about six months all the things I wanted this magical CheeHoo fairy to do. I held focus groups and talked to all around me to see just how they were 'doing it all' and what they really wanted.
CheeHoo to me is a way of being as well as an App in the making. Trying to focus on what’s important, being able to celebrate the good, get through the challenging times and enjoy the journey. Yes, pretty cliché'.
I truly want CheeHoo to be all the characteristics of love, bringing back those closest to you into your life and living a life of courage, selfishness, perseverance, commitment, generosity, patience and respect. This is easier said than done, but it's better to start then never to experience it.
Over the next few months I hope to introduce you to CheeHoo Life, where nothing is impossible. You Love, you are Loved, and the universe aligns to serve you!
Spend less time caught up in the clutter and more focusing on what is truly important.